The title of this post should really be “Where The Hell I’ve Been and Where Am I Headed.”
I’ve been quiet with my business since the Fall of 2016. There have been personal reasons but also a need to explore where my coaching practice was and where I wanted it to go.
I love working with my clients and it’s important that I come from a place of my own passion and purpose, just as I help my clients do for their own lives. But I’m going to admit something…I’ve been very hesitant in doing so for my own business.
I’ve realized that I’m on a mission to redefine the term “midlife” and how society sees those of us who have hit the “middle years”. This isn’t a time to shrink more, it’s a time to fully bloom!
The only problem was it wasn’t until working with my own coach (yes, even coaches have, or should have, their own coaches!) that I realized I was doing the very same. I was shrinking and not allowing myself to bloom. How in the hell could I expect my clients to do the work that I wasn’t doing myself?
My passion isn’t new if you are a listener to my podcast, Midlife Schmidlife. The weird thing I’ve realized, though, is that the more I gather my confidence and step in a fuller version of myself, the more I experience Invisible Woman Syndrome.
You might not have heard this term before, but Invisible Woman Syndrome is a very real social phenomenon where women in their 40s and 50s “disappear”. The reasons are many – most stem from society’s view of women of this age, especially when they are no longer as a whole deemed as attractive. This is extremely obvious in movies, magazines, and television shows, but it’s also noticeable in our own lives. Somehow we are seen with less power, less relevancy and with less to say. It’s quite the opposite for men as they age and this dichotomy often begins to change how we feel about ourselves.
The more I realize this in my own life, the more I get a fire in my belly that has me ready to take a stand.
It’s time for a change.
The old rules that we have followed about who we are and what it means to be a “good girl” need to be kicked to the curb. Being quiet, not asking for what we want or need, not questioning the status quo, not being curious about what more we personally can become and putting ourselves on the last of our to-do list have all kept us playing small. Most of these rules we’ve told ourselves for over 40 years now. It’s time that we begin questioning how these “shoulds” are keeping us from living a full life.
As I can’t keep playing small myself, I’m fully stepping into helping women reclaim their confidence to recreate their lives and and redefine midlife.
What to Expect Now
This laser-tight direction has me streamlining my online presence so I can focus more on my clients. I’m concentrating on fewer social media platforms and if you know me, Facebook wins out. It’s just where I can form true connection which is important to me and my clients. I’m also returning my coaching back to this website with the podcast on it’s own site. It’s hard for a multi-passionate person as myself to get it sorted out so that it makes sense for everyone. My goal is to eventually have one hub but for now, I’m keeping it easy to connect with me in ways my clients find me: through blog posts and videos here and through my podcast at MidlifeSchmidlife.com.
In other good news, after many requests to be a guest and even more requests as to what happened to the show, The Midlife Schmidlife Podcast, Season 2.1 launched the end of June 2017. I couldn’t be happier with the guest interviews that are lined up. You can expect the shows to be bi-weekly-ish as I work through production times. Just a reminder, you’ll be able to listen to the podcast from the website but you can also subscribe on iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher and I Heart Radio for on-the-go listening.
What’s Coming Next
As my passion for helping women has grown, I’ve noticed three groups of women that I tend to help the most: 1) Those who are soon-to-be empty nesters and want to develop tools to help them handle the quickly changing landscape in their homes (and their hearts) 2) Empty Nesters who are trying to figure out “who they want to be when they grow up” and 3) Women who have had a long-ignored dream and they are ready to turn that “maybe someday into today.”
Within the next few weeks, I’ll be finalizing packages to work with each of these groups where I’ll be combining my own experience, my extensive training, and what I’ve gained from working with past clients. Look for individual and group programs with a plan for future day-retreats to be held in the Dallas-area soon. And to round out a dream of mine, weekend retreats are on the horizon.
The past 8 months may have been quiet for my business but I couldn’t be more excited about the upcoming changes and focus. If you’d like to stay on top of what’s coming up next and learn more about my upcoming opportunities, be sure to head over and like my Facebook page.
I can’t wait to helping you enjoy this time in your life and help you reclaim your own passion and purpose.